Kat Scannerscoop will be delayed!

By dhunley • Dec 2nd, 2007 • Category: Articles

Kat is in need of our prayers!

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9 Responses to “Kat Scannerscoop will be delayed!”

  1. (required voluntary compliance) Says:
    December 2nd, 2007 at 9:56 am

    Get well soon Kat !

  2. Kat Says:
    December 2nd, 2007 at 11:32 am

    To the people at Rowan Review, I am Debbie’s(Kat’s) friend JoAnn. Kat’s mother was found dead in Cincinnati and not much else is known. Her husband can’t get down here right now to be with her so keep Kat in your prayers, needless to say, she isn’t doing well right now. Thank you, JoAnn

  3. Leo Starrenburg Says:
    December 2nd, 2007 at 8:02 pm

    I didn’t visit the Rowan Review in a long long time, but this evening I took a look for no particular reason.

    Now I read that Kat’s mother died.

    Our prayers are with Kat.

    greetings, Leo.

  4. dhunley Says:
    December 2nd, 2007 at 11:52 pm

    Kat, may God comfort you in this difficult time! Please know that you’re in the prayers of all of us at rowanreview.com!

  5. (required voluntary compliance) Says:
    December 3rd, 2007 at 11:55 am

    Nobody want to lose their mom, especially this time of the year, what a rough patch. Spend time with family & folks, we will all lose everyone we love at some point so there is no time to waste.

    I hyeard that somewhere recently.

  6. Kat Says:
    December 4th, 2007 at 11:56 pm

    This is the letter that I just sent to my Pastor as he emailed and asked what was going on.

    Pastor Anderson,

    Her husband had her cremated and is basically demanding that “we” the family pay to have her placed in a ‘niche’ at the Cincinnati Crematorium Co at 575 Martin Luther King Drive in Cincinnati, in the urn behind a glass window or he’ll just scatter the ashes where and whenever he chooses.

    Originally when I contacted him he just kept saying over and over, “Who’s footin’ the bill for this’. I’ve caught him in at least 2 lies. I ask if she passed away Nov 30th or Dec 1st and he said, “Whatever date you want to put down, it doesn’t matter”. I ask where she was and he said the University of Cincinnati Morgue. I called there and they had no record of her. They gave me the number of the Hamilton County morgue, she was listed in their computer’s but the coroner never logged her in as it was ‘assumed’ a natural death. The Morgue gave me the phone number of Schaefer and Bussey Funeral Home that picked her up from the house. I spoke with an Officer Lucas who responded to the scene at 8 a.m. on December 1st saying that she was last seen alive at 11 p.m. Nov 30. He went out drinking all night and came home the next morning. When I ask where she was when he found her, he said she was in the bed and thought she was asleep so he made himself and sandwich and watched TV., etc., and went to wake her up and she was cold. The police officer said she was found sitting in a chair. Her husband is furious at me for going behind his back and ‘tracking her down’.

    He treated her like a dog and now he is basically holding her ‘hostage’ for spite. He is also an alcoholic. We can get no closure. My grandmother, her mother, was taken via ambulance yesterday morning, Monday, around 5:30a.m.and is at St. Claire. My grandmother has other health problems but hearing that she had lost yet another child and that this one was cremated did her in.

    I have sat here at home for 3 days literally staring at the ceiling like a zombie. I feel basically nothing. Like my entire body has been given a shot of Novocaine. Everyone is so angry with him because he never cared and now all of a sudden it’s basically, if you want to ever seen her ‘urn’ you need need to come up with some cash. He wanted to scatter her ashes in Wilmington, NC because she loved that area but he doesn’t have the cash to go there.

    He is in the process of THINKING of holding some kind of memorial at the VFW where all her drinking friends and herself hung out. He has called and threatened me, harassed me etc., She already had a plot down here between her father and sister at Forest Lawn and Rudy,my husband, already paid to have the grave site opened. We went and got clothes for mamaw, etc., and now we are just sitting here in limbo.

    He stated that at ’some’ point, in a few WEEKS? or MONTHS? he ‘might’ allow us to have the urn and be buried here but he had to think about it and that he wasn’t going to be rushed into anything.

    Mamaw, is having a brain CT tomorrow morning. If you go to see her use my name of Deborah as she will have no idea whom you are speaking of if you say, Kat.

    My mother was a life long heavy drinker and tons literally DOZENS of pills from various doctors without one doctor knowing about the other one. She smoked all the time, stayed drunk all the time, etc. They listed it as a ‘natural death’. I KNOW it was an accidental overdose as she kept increasing her consumption of heavy duty pain killers and vodka.

    I don’t know what to do, where to go, what to feel, etc.

    I tried to go over his head and have an emergency stay of her cremation from a Hamilton County judge due to the fact that myself and the family did not believe it to be a ‘natural death’, however, it was too late.

    ——I still have my scanner OFF. I just can’t turn it back on right now. I know you all understand.——

    This is a good diet plan, I haven’t been able to hold down much of anything from the nerves/stress and no desire to eat. Sad way to lose weight. I called Chicago to talk to my best girlfriend and her husband answered and said that he didn’t think she could come to the phone as her son, Erik, has just died on the 1st! 29, heroin overdose, leaving behind a 6 y/o son. Great time for joyous holidays.

  7. (required voluntary compliance) Says:
    December 7th, 2007 at 12:47 pm

    Hope you can get back at it soon Kat, scanner scoop is useful for those of us that for whatever reason cant keep the scanner going (& not ignore it/hear it). My scanner(s) dont get used much these daze.

  8. (required voluntary compliance) Says:
    December 7th, 2007 at 12:48 pm

    Hope you can get back at it soon Kat, scanner scoop is useful for those of us that for whatever reason cant keep the scanner going (& not ignore it/hear it). My scanner(s) dont get used much these daze. Hope for better days for all of us !

  9. Kat Says:
    December 7th, 2007 at 4:19 pm

    Just checking in. It’s been 1 week since my mother’s death and we have no idea where her ashes are or anything else that has happened. Her husband said we each needed to send him between $30-50 to help on his back rent and then he “might” some time in the next few weeks or months allow us to know where her ashes are! My grandmother, her mother, just got out of the hospital today. This is her second child to die and not being able to even say goodbye is killing her. I have spoke with my Pastor and I think I am going to sit a picture on the altar at church and have a memorial. Pastor Anderson said he had done this before when there was no body to view, etc. The shock has worn off and the guilt and anger has set in. I know one think for sure this has taught me to ‘Not put off until tomorrow’ what needs to be said today in matters like this.

    I began by, in my own way, extending an olive branch and hopefully mending a strained situation with someone this morning. I immediately felt much better when I told them I was sorry for any of my past actions. Life is way too short for petty little issues.

    Everyone that is near and dear to you, don’t forget to tell them, tomorrow may be too late. Don’t say that will never happen to me……I’m living proof that it can and does when you least expect it. I was so angry with my mother that I never sent her even a card for Mother’s Day this past year or anything for her birthday on July 4th. Now, I’ll never be able undo that.

    Talk to you all later, Kat

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